1. there is only 2 Cruise controls, One being the standard with the braking function and the Active Cruise Control with Stop and go.
The Drivers Assistance package lists the optional Active Cruise Control for extra.
2. Parking assistant is not available on XDrive models, has to do with the awd system.
3. the 2014 has new software which allows you to turn AS/S and program it into the memory buttons and next time you start up the car it should have saved your setting.
Hope it helps