wedding gift?

alq80 · 07-28-2009, 07:24 PM

so my friends are getting married soon and im invited to their wedding along with my girlfriend... thing is, im not really from the US and ive only been here for the past 3 yrs for college. that being said, what would be "expected" of us as a gift to them on their wedding?

any ideas would be great! thanks alot guys

yomama69 · 07-28-2009, 07:28 PM

Either buy something where they are registered and have it shipped or cash or check.

alq80 · 07-28-2009, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by yomama69

Either buy something where they are registered and have it shipped or cash or check.

i think i confused you, im in pennsylvania right now, and their wedding is nearby (in Pitt) so i will be going to the wedding myself!

i dont know what you mean by something registered... and do u suggest we send their gift instead of bringing it along?

thanks

BMW F22 · 07-28-2009, 07:42 PM

^ Here is what he meant: usually when couples get married they register at a store or stores and pick what they want/need. Their guests can then go to those sites/stores and buy from that list and have it shipped either directly to the couple or to their own home and later on give it to the couple.

In my opinion you should get them some china or silverware. I got my friends a set of china and they loved it. It was one of the items they registered and they use it every day. So either pick something from their list or buy something practical.

yomama69 · 07-28-2009, 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by alq80

i think i confused you, im in pennsylvania right now, and their wedding is nearby (in Pitt) so i will be going to the wedding myself!

i dont know what you mean by something registered... and do u suggest we send their gift instead of bringing it along?

thanks

Ask if they are "registered anywhere." That means they go to a store and compile a list of gifts they want so that people don't have to guess or get them things they don't want. Most stores have websites where you can order through and tey will ship the gift to them. If you have it sent, you don't have to worry about dragging a gift to the wedding.

alq80 · 07-28-2009, 07:45 PM

cool! i will check that out, and thanks for clarification

yomama69 · 07-28-2009, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by BMW E90

^ Here is what he meant: usually when couples get married they register at a store or stores and pick what they want/need. Their guests can then go to those sites/stores and buy from that list and have it shipped either directly to the couple or to their own home and later on give it to the couple.

In my opinion you should get them some china or silverware. I got my friends a set of china and they loved it. It was one of the items they registered and they use it every day. So either pick something from their list or buy something practical.

I appreciated cash more than anything, but that's because I had to pay for a large chunk of the wedding myself. My wife and I were living together for 4 years prior so we had most of the stuff we needed.

Kensta335 · 07-28-2009, 07:54 PM

Red Envelope with cash in it.

alq80 · 07-28-2009, 07:55 PM

i found their thing and im probably gonna put in some cash towards it too! thanks btw

BMW F22 · 07-28-2009, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by yomama69

I appreciated cash more than anything, but that's because I had to pay for a large chunk of the wedding myself. My wife and I were living together for 4 years prior so we had most of the stuff we needed.

Yeah for sure- cash is always appreciated as it helps pay for the wedding.

BMW F22 · 07-28-2009, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Kensta335

Red Envelope with cash in it.

They might not be Asians so it doesn't have to be in a red envelop.

yomama69 · 07-28-2009, 08:14 PM

Asians give a lot of cash. I didn't invite enough Asians to my wedding.

choicez · 07-28-2009, 08:30 PM

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Originally Posted by yomama69

Asians give a lot of cash. I didn't invite enough Asians to my wedding.

HA! Funny statement.

Not sure the rule of thumb for the amount of your gift but I always try to base it on the amount it cost them to pay for my place setting at dinner. If it's family or close friends, my minimum for the present (usually cash and I'm Asian

) is $100.

Check here to see if they're registered http://www.weddingchannel.com/
Most people use this website.

yomama69 · 07-28-2009, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by choicez

HA! Funny statement.

Not sure the rule of thumb for the amount of your gift but I always try to base it on the amount it cost them to pay for my place setting at dinner. If it's family or close friends, my minimum for the present (usually cash and I'm Asian

) is $100.

I think $50 per person is standard. I had a plated dinner with premium open bar and my wife's family and friends were giving $25-50 per couple. I was so fucking insulted.

jpsum · 07-28-2009, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by choicez

HA! Funny statement.

Not sure the rule of thumb for the amount of your gift but I always try to base it on the amount it cost them to pay for my place setting at dinner. If it's family or close friends, my minimum for the present (usually cash and I'm Asian

) is $100.

check here to see if they're registered http://www.weddingchannel.com/

Chinatown weddings are usually cheaper so I usually give $75. Otherwise, it is $100 per person. But then again, I'm asian too. =)

choicez · 07-28-2009, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by yomama69

I think $50 per person is standard. I had a plated dinner with premium open bar and my wife's family and friends were giving $25-50 per couple. I was so fucking insulted.

That's garbage!! Cheap bastards, especially they were a couple. I only give a $100 minimum if it's immediate family or a really close friend.

yomama69 · 07-28-2009, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by choicez

That's garbage!! Cheap bastards, especially they were a couple. I only give a $100 minimum if it's immediate family or a really close friend.

If my wife and I go to a wedding, we'll buy a gift and give $100.

choicez · 07-28-2009, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by yomama69

If my wife and I go to a wedding, we'll buy a gift and give $100.

I'll invite you to my wedding!

alq80 · 07-28-2009, 08:38 PM

i just put in $90... it was one of their options things

i never knew this is how it worked but it seems really cool!

yomama69 · 07-28-2009, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by choicez

I'll invite you to my wedding!

I had to miss a very good friend's wedding in LA 2 years ago on the account that it was a week before we moved cross country.

choicez · 07-28-2009, 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by yomama69

I had to miss a very good friend's wedding in LA 2 years ago on the account that it was a week before we moved cross country.

Shame on you!

OP, to be safe no lower than $50 but I would give $100. That should cover your dinner and drinks (if the couple is supplying an open bar). You don't wanna look cheap. BTW, weddings are always a good time!!! One big party!

yomama69 · 07-28-2009, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by choicez

Shame on you!

OP, to be safe no lower than $50 but I would give $100. That should cover your dinner and drinks (if the couple is supplying an open bar). You don't wanna look cheap.

Apparently some people didn't care. We got shit for cash. more than 50% of our cash came from 10 people on my side. We had 175 people.

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