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      10-23-2014, 01:09 PM   #1
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Can't get women to respond!

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Need a few tips. I'm pretty good at getting numbers, but awful at getting responses haha. I usually wait 3-4 days before texting, and typically say something like, "Hey, _____, it's Yawar, we met at ______! Have a good day today!" Very simple, that doesn't require them to be binded to do something. Am I doing something wrong? Is there a trick to this I'm not getting?

Advice would be appreciated!
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Go ask grimlock, he's got the texting thing down
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      10-23-2014, 01:14 PM   #3
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You're much better off giving them your number. Was great chatting w you, enjoy your night, here's my number give me a shout sometime. Then walk away and don't look back. Women invariably want guys who have something better to do and by giving them your # you're being assertive but considerate of their privacy. 9/10 times you'll get a text within an hour.
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      10-23-2014, 01:19 PM   #4
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You're much better off giving them your number. Was great chatting w you, enjoy your night, here's my number give me a shout sometime. Then walk away and don't look back. Women invariably want guys who have something better to do and by giving them your # you're being assertive but considerate of their privacy. 9/10 times you'll get a text within an hour.

This was going to be my suggestion as well. Give them your number and leave the ball in their court.
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You wait 3-4 days? She's lost interest.
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      10-23-2014, 01:21 PM   #6
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I don't think you should wait 4 days. If you are really interested, maybe 2 days. Don't play stupid waiting games.

Edited: Haha, I posted before I saw Sara's reply. See, us girls are thinking the same thing!
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      10-23-2014, 01:25 PM   #7
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I don't think you should wait 4 days. If you are really interested, maybe 2 days. Don't play stupid waiting games.

Edited: Haha, I posted before I saw Sara's reply. See, us girls are thinking the same thing!
Well how old are these women you are hoping will text you back? The ladies are right, and in my experience the bullshit tolerance decreases rapidly with age.
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      10-23-2014, 01:25 PM   #8
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Hey guys,

Need a few tips. I'm pretty good at getting numbers, but awful at getting responses haha. I usually wait 3-4 days before texting, and typically say something like, "Hey, _____, it's Yawar, we met at ______! Have a good day today!" Very simple, that doesn't require them to be binded to do something. Am I doing something wrong? Is there a trick to this I'm not getting?

Advice would be appreciated!
You aren't giving them anything to work with here. How are they going to respond to that? "You Too!"

You SHOULD invite them to do something, or at least end with an interesting question so that they can actually respond. Attractive women (even average women) get uninteresting, passive guys contacting them all the time.

If you are the first one to initiate contact after meeting, and she isn't blowing up your phone trying to get you to hang out, you are the one that needs to take the initiative. You are going to have to put in the work. Another tip would be to call rather than text when you invite them out, don't give them too much time to think about whether or not she wants to go out with you, most likely she doesn't even know you well enough to make that decision. If she's that opposed to the idea, she'll just say no up front or shortly after. You kinda need to put people on the spot. You just don't want to pressure them, ie dont ask again if they say no, don't beg or try to convince them, that kind of stuff only works on close friends and can make you seem creepy to others.

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      10-23-2014, 01:25 PM   #9
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You wait 3-4 days? She's lost interest.
THIS! Seriously? Why the hell are you waiting? CALL THEM THE NEXT DAY.

Yes, you read that correctly. CALL. Pick up the damn phone, talk for a bit, and set something up. I know this goes against today's logic, but you'd be surprised how women respond to an actual phone call. Any hill billy can text, but how many have the balls to pick up the phone and talk?

Also, why are you saying "Have a good day" after? You're not even allowing them to enter the conversation.

"Hey, this is yada yada from the other night, had a really great time meeting you the other night! What's going on?"

If they don't answer the question, you have your answer. If they answer the question, you have started a....., conversation.
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      10-23-2014, 01:26 PM   #10
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I just text after 5 minutes, and say, "I love oranges. Will you have 10 of my children?"

Why am I not getting responses?

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I just text after 5 minutes, and say, "I love oranges. Will you have 10 of my children?"

Why am I not getting responses?

You are instantly gratifying your love of oranges before them. How would that make you feel?

I love these lemons so much! But I guess you're ok yourself, make my babies?
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      10-23-2014, 01:30 PM   #12
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You are instantly gratifying your love of oranges before them. How would that make you feel?

I love these lemons so much! But I guess you're ok yourself, make my babies?
This is why I come to the OT. Solid advice, man. Solid.

But it's not just, "my babies." It's 10 of them. I feel this is important to convey immediately within 5 minutes in a text message. Weed out the tire kickers.
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I don't think you should wait 4 days. If you are really interested, maybe 2 days. Don't play stupid waiting games.

Edited: Haha, I posted before I saw Sara's reply. See, us girls are thinking the same thing!
I know right?

I gave a guy my number and he waited like 3 days to text me. He did not get a response from me. I dont play that game. If you ask for my number then you need to communicate. None of this wait 3-4 days bullshit. NEXT.
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I know right?

I gave a guy my number and he waited like 3 days to text me. He did not get a response from me. I dont play that game. If you ask for my number then you need to communicate. None of this wait 3-4 days bullshit. NEXT.
But womans are scary. I need to wait 3-4 days so she forgets that embarrassing dance move I did before vomiting into her Louis Vuitton bag.
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      10-23-2014, 01:49 PM   #15
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I know right?

I gave a guy my number and he waited like 3 days to text me. He did not get a response from me. I dont play that game. If you ask for my number then you need to communicate. None of this wait 3-4 days bullshit. NEXT.
What if he was 'The One" You'll never know
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Hey guys,

Need a few tips. I'm pretty good at getting numbers, but awful at getting responses haha. I usually wait 3-4 days before texting, and typically say something like, "Hey, _____, it's Yawar, we met at ______! Have a good day today!" Very simple, that doesn't require them to be binded to do something. Am I doing something wrong? Is there a trick to this I'm not getting?

Advice would be appreciated!
so you haven't texted for 3-4 days and you expect them to respond? not only that, you ended the conversation in the first txt with "have a good day"

the only way you will get them to respond with that method is this:

"i know we just met 4 days ago, you might not remember me but i remember you. oh and i liked what you were wearing yesterday. have a good day."

now mind you, you might not get the response you were looking for but you're sure to get a response of some kind. even if it's a restraining order.
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      10-23-2014, 01:52 PM   #18
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What if he was 'The One" You'll never know

You mean like Neyo from The Matrix? He is the only "One" that I can think of. So if she gave her number to Keanu Reeves and he didn't call, well, I think that really means something deep here.
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Agree with what others said. If you must wait, wait a day. Anything longer than that and it's just going to look like you're playing games. I like calling unless you're scared to talk over the phone. In that case texting is acceptable.
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You mean like Neyo from The Matrix? He is the only "One" that I can think of. So if she gave her number to Keanu Reeves and he didn't call, well, I think that really means something deep here.
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What if he was 'The One" You'll never know
If he was the one his ass would have texted me the next day. Obviously I wasnt high enough priority on his list for even a "hi" text. As much as people use their phones on a daily basis its unacceptable to me to go that long without so much as saying hello.

Mr. Parto just lost me to Mr. Ferrara. Why? Because he actually texts me, every single day from the day he gave me his number and hasnt stopped.
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But womans are scary. I need to wait 3-4 days so she forgets that embarrassing dance move I did before vomiting into her Louis Vuitton bag.
No, we arent in middle school.If you want to talk to someone then just do it! If you ask a woman for her number to her that obviously means you want to talk to her. Then if there is no communication on your end for days its basically a big "Fuck You" to her.
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