"Lazy" GF... How to motivate?

[Alfisti]

It's not about the gym or being lazy or future dress size, it's about the sulking, the "sensitivity", being easily pissed and the general "i will get my way by being mad at you all the time" attitude that's underneath this.

Life is too short.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

No relationship is perfect, but the right one doesn't have issues like this...

You are exactly right! They'll have other issues. Possibly far worse issues.

Define "the right one" curious as to your definition of what makes a relationship wrong or right.

[qba335i]

Originally Posted by Lups

When was her last doctors appointment? Type two diabetes is a very common reason to be worn out in the evening time and what you're describing pretty much hits the prediabetic patterns .

No medical issues.

[Lups]

Originally Posted by qba335i

No medical issues.

The energy levels start going down fast when you eat rich foods, are stressed and the end result is on the couch more and more.

Changes happen in months. A body can be trained to a couch life fast. I know since I hurt my ankle last autumn and months of bitching got me reading even more than normal but now that the ankle is finally healing again, at so pm all I want is a hearty meal of carbs and my Kindle instead of the veggies I've been eating in the evenings all my life.

I'm a 35 year old female so age also plays a part in these. I'm clearly hitting the couch age now.

[Lups]

Originally Posted by Just_Jody

You are exactly right! They'll have other issues. Possibly far worse issues.

Define "the right one" curious as to your definition of what makes a relationship wrong or right.

I don't care who ya are...

... What ya do...

... As long as you

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Lups

I don't care who ya are...

... What ya do...

... As long as you

Lups forgive me, what are you getting at here? I'm sorry, I'm missing your point. Please elaborate.

[Lups]

Originally Posted by Just_Jody

Lups forgive me, what are you getting at here? I'm sorry, I'm missing your point. Please elaborate.

For fucks sake the one time I quote a boy band to get the girl to be my friend and this is the treatment I get?!!?

Edit: Never mind. I think I remember seeing you posting to the headbangers once.

Rock on.

[Mr Carrots]

Originally Posted by dmk08

My advice to her is walk away. You seem like a lame bf.

'lazy' is not the word for anyone working a 50 hour week , maybe if she sat home all day he might have a point but LMAO at going to the gym and ordering her to fold laundry while you're enjoying a workout.

[Jesusm231]

Since im a guy i dont know if its that much different but i am 23 years old and work 80+ hours construction and come exhausted home during the week and in the weekend im too lazy to get up and in a mood. I dont know how much shes been working that long hours but takes time to get used to it and even then is hard. See what she likes and get involve with her more on her stuff. If she dont like to exercise motive her to eat healthy all that stress and long hours get to you and you put a lot of weight fast trust me fat person here lol. Importantly communicate

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Lups

For fucks sake the one time I quote a boy band to get the girl to be my friend and this is the treatment I get?!!?

Edit: Never mind. I think I remember seeing you posting to the headbangers once.

Rock on.

Lups.....dear.....I'm a man.

And yes, you did see me post in the headbangers thread, although most of which wasn't very headbanging.

[PshhhhhMW]

Originally Posted by Just_Jody

Lups.....dear.....I'm a man.

And yes, you did see me post in the headbangers thread, although most of which wasn't very headbanging.

I love the attempt to woo you on a gf advice thread.. bwahahaha!

[dmk08]

Originally Posted by Mr Carrots

'lazy' is not the word for anyone working a 50 hour week , maybe if she sat home all day he might have a point but LMAO at going to the gym and ordering her to fold laundry while you're enjoying a workout.

Hes lucky he just got the silent treatment. My wife would probably stab me.

[BSM n54iS]

Still not seeing any nudes..?

[c1pher]

Originally Posted by Alfisti

Bail.

Trust an older man, take the fucking advice. The rest of your life is a long time, be absolutely fucking merciless.

Move on.

Totally agree. Just think about having to spend the rest of your life with this person....you will be the one to suffer, not them.

I spent 20 years with a spouse who was the same way. I wanted to do athletic or active things, and she wanted to sit around unless it was a vacation with the "girlfriends". The only reason we lasted as long as we did was I was in the military so was gone a lot and we had kids and did the best I could not to blow things up. As I approached military retirement, I basically said what I wanted and that essentially ended my marriage in fairly quick order. Oh and when you think you might have a friendly divorce, no you won't. They will go for the jugular every. single. time. I've been busting my butt in the mean time to make sure the financial impact is as little as possible.

Learn from us, don't do it.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by PshhhhhMW

I love the attempt to woo you on a gf advice thread.. bwahahaha!

Right?

[Lups]

Originally Posted by Just_Jody

Lups.....dear.....I'm a man.

And yes, you did see me post in the headbangers thread, although most of which wasn't very headbanging.

Oh for fucks sake don't tell me that! I'm like all approving you and vouching you in the ot society!

Yeah, the guys here listen to rnb or what ever and serenade their galls. You get my approval still even with balls but I was kinda happy to see a Judy (I'm dyslexic...) coming in and being so epically great.

Welcome Judy, you'll fit right in with all the rest of the handles I keep reading wrong.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Lups

Oh for fucks sake don't tell me that! I'm like all approving you and vouching you in the ot society!

Yeah, the guys here listen to rnb or what ever and serenade their galls. You get my approval still even with balls but I was kinda happy to see a Judy (I'm dyslexic...) coming in and being so epically great.

Welcome Judy, you'll fit right in with all the rest of the handles I keep reading wrong.

I appreciate your kind words in being "epically great", your vouching and approving of me in the OT society.....even with my balls.

[HyeWarrior]

Originally Posted by MGM135is

Totally agree. Just think about having to spend the rest of your life with this person....you will be the one to suffer, not them.

I spent 20 years with a spouse who was the same way. I wanted to do athletic or active things, and she wanted to sit around unless it was a vacation with the "girlfriends". The only reason we lasted as long as we did was I was in the military so was gone a lot and we had kids and did the best I could not to blow things up. As I approached military retirement, I basically said what I wanted and that essentially ended my marriage in fairly quick order. Oh and when you think you might have a friendly divorce, no you won't. They will go for the jugular every. single. time. I've been busting my butt in the mean time to make sure the financial impact is as little as possible.

Learn from us, don't do it.

Fuck this is terrifying. Mainly because I see my brother going down a loosely similar path

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by Just_Jody

You are exactly right! They'll have other issues. Possibly far worse issues.

Define "the right one" curious as to your definition of what makes a relationship wrong or right.

Right or wrong depends on you. We all desire different things.

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by Lups

I'm a 35 year old female so age also plays a part in these. I'm clearly hitting the couch age now.

For you I would use a taser to motivate you, evil as you could be

For OP: As read before, no relationship is perfect, but as you close as could be, I would tolerate lazyness up to a vary point

[Lups]

Originally Posted by Just_Jody

I appreciate your kind words in being "epically great", your vouching and approving of me in the OT society.....even with my balls.

Well Judy, you'll fit right in here. I was just hoping we'd have an other female member giving the boys here hell but I guess I can live with a male who has a sense of humor too.

[///M Power-Belgium]

Originally Posted by Lups

The energy levels start going down fast when you eat rich foods, are stressed and the end result is on the couch more and more.

Changes happen in months. A body can be trained to a couch life fast. I know since I hurt my ankle last autumn and months of bitching got me reading even more than normal but now that the ankle is finally healing again, at so pm all I want is a hearty meal of carbs and my Kindle instead of the veggies I've been eating in the evenings all my life.

I'm a 35 year old female so age also plays a part in these. I'm clearly hitting the couch age now.

Anna , I'm pretty sure your milk does the trick