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      05-24-2016, 10:00 AM   #45
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From a financial protection stand point yes. But from a relationship stand point, there will be some challenges. I've experienced this and still am experiencing this with my then GF and now wife. Her comment at times has been she doesn't feel like either of the places are her homes. It's decreased as time passes and we settle into an equilibrium with things.
lol tell her to pony up then! unless she's having your babies, tell her it it is what it is...
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      05-24-2016, 10:10 AM   #46
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lol tell her to pony up then! unless she's having your babies, tell her it it is what it is...
LOL. Actually, she did have my baby.
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      05-24-2016, 10:10 AM   #47
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I think zx10guy has the right idea. Search out a solid investment property you two would never live in no matter what and see how a business partnership works out. Is she gonna be your partner on paper or for real when the enevetable issues of property ownership smack you in the back of your head. After all marriage is 98% business and 2% sublime everlasting euphoria with your soulmate!
And by the way you can always hide the midgets under the bed if she comes home early.
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      05-24-2016, 10:58 AM   #48
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I recently bought a house with my SO about a year ago. We'd been dating for 2 years at that point and had lived together in an apartment for 6 mos. previously. Make sure it's something you really want to do. Like others have said you get to see your SO at their worst/most annoying and it can be tough. That being said we couldn't be happier now, took her alot longer than me to consider it "home"(she came from a bad environment with parents that were hostile towards each other for 10+ years so she didn't have a great benchmark). You'll know in your gut if it's the right thing to do. Always trust your intuition.
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      05-24-2016, 11:06 AM   #49
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Seriously? You haven't even been dating a year. Don't do it.
+1000.

Nothing is set in stone...

Not trying to sound like a dick but are you nuts? Lol no girl is ever getting a hold of my money unless we get married.

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      05-24-2016, 11:24 AM   #50
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Agree with bimmette that a year seems a little soon. Also agree with 1MOREMOD about having a legally binding agreement about what happens if you should separate. Not sure where you live, but the law can be complicated (or overly simple), so you should make that decision for yourselves. Also, if you should separate, emotions can get in the way of good decisions, so no matter how amicable you both think you can be later if that happens, you don't know what it would be like, so make that decision now. Lastly, you mentioned you worry that living together brings out bad habits. It implies that you two have not lived together yet. If that is the case, I recommend renting a place for at least a year first. If one of you already owns a house, then move in together without the financial marriage first. Everyone's situation is different. You may be ready this soon, who knows. But you may not be. Good luck.
+1..good advice here. If you are able to buy real low (say a fixer) and you are confident that a profit could be made in case things go south then maybe..but otherwise....try being together 24/7 before plopping down a big chunk of change.
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I commented earlier but this is just fascinating that one would even consider this. I'll have to keep following this thread. The dynamics of living together that come into play, etc, things change, blah, blah. So many variables.....risk heat map is upper right quadrant for sure.
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      05-24-2016, 12:24 PM   #52
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i don't get this. you aren't even sure of your job situation yet and you want to commit to buying a house with a girl friend?

I'd rather buy the house with a homie, then split the profit and buy a new place when you are both ready to move out.
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      05-24-2016, 01:16 PM   #53
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i don't get this. you aren't even sure of your job situation yet and you want to commit to buying a house with a girl friend?

I'd rather buy the house with a homie, then split the profit and buy a new place when you are both ready to move out.
Sigh. The job situation is set. As I said a few times, the other job I interviewed for was months ago. They just got around to making an offer now. It really is just a way for me to see what I'm worth. I wonder be taking it.

As for the house, it was just a thought. Like I said I'm not ready or seriously considering it at this point. But it could in the future be an option. As of right now my plan is to go in on a house with my brother.
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      05-24-2016, 01:21 PM   #54
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Sigh. The job situation is set. As I said a few times, the other job I interviewed for was months ago. They just got around to making an offer now. It really is just a way for me to see what I'm worth. I wonder be taking it.

As for the house, it was just a thought. Like I said I'm not ready or seriously considering it at this point. But it could in the future be an option. As of right now my plan is to go in on a house with my brother.
So, just so I understand...

You have already committed to buying a new house with this girl you just met, probably next week, and are also probably losing your job? Jesus man! You are crazy.

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Maybe make sure she doesn't produce alien babies first. Could you imagine? An entire house full of alien babies and you're not even married? Who's going to clean up that mess? Not your girlfriend, that's for sure.
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So, just so I understand...

You have already committed to buying a new house with this girl you just met, probably next week, and are also probably losing your job? Jesus man! You are crazy.
Crazy is as crazy does
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Maybe make sure she doesn't produce alien babies first. Could you imagine? An entire house full of alien babies and you're not even married? Who's going to clean up that mess? Not your girlfriend, that's for sure.
Alien babies? Like ugly babies?
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Alien babies? Like ugly babies?
Yea, fuggin alien babies, man (https://www.google.com/search?q=alien+baby&tbm=isch).

So no... well, maybe yes, I guess they can be ugly so IDK!

That shit can get out of hand. Definitely, not for girlfriend mortgages.
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Yea, fuggin alien babies, man (https://www.google.com/search?q=alien+baby&tbm=isch).

So no... well, maybe yes, I guess they can be ugly so IDK!

That shit can get out of hand. Definitely, not for girlfriend mortgages.
Dude...i was eating and some of those pix almost made me throw up.
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Yea, fuggin alien babies, man (https://www.google.com/search?q=alien+baby&tbm=isch).

So no... well, maybe yes, I guess they can be ugly so IDK!

That shit can get out of hand. Definitely, not for girlfriend mortgages.
Is it already 5:00 in the OC???????

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Dude...i was eating and some of those pix almost made me throw up.
Maybe now you'll appreciate the seriousness of the matter.

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Is it already 5:00 in the OC???????

This is serious business, sir.
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I was more curious about the good and bad of it.
good: ....*cricket chirp*....
bad: everything
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$25k wedding? That's cheap as hell.

Aren't you Asian op? My original budget was $100k LOL
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Sigh. The job situation is set. As I said a few times, the other job I interviewed for was months ago. They just got around to making an offer now. It really is just a way for me to see what I'm worth. I wonder be taking it.

As for the house, it was just a thought. Like I said I'm not ready or seriously considering it at this point. But it could in the future be an option. As of right now my plan is to go in on a house with my brother.
just making sure where your mind is. some of your posts jump from one thing to another with no hesitation. one thing at a time! lol
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i don't get this. you aren't even sure of your job situation yet and you want to commit to buying a house with a girl friend?

I'd rather buy the house with a homie, then split the profit and buy a new place when you are both ready to move out.
That's assuming you're going to make a profit from selling the house...after all the stuff as a seller you would be expected to cover.
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Are you married? Then yes.


If you're not, then no.
this for me too.
Buying a house makes you just as married, maybe more than a wedding....legally speaking.
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