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Originally Posted by ksafimova
I am happily married now. But it was not always so. When we just met, everything was fine. Like many couples, after we got married, we started to quarrel. They were so stupid. And all because the routine began. Every day the same thing - it was so tiring. All this led to the fact that there was no passion between us. When we decided to talk about what needs to be done to improve our relationship. We began to spend more time together and set our priorities in life more correctly. We shared hobbies and oddities. For example, we can go to a strip club together, or sit on a webcam. So we became closer and our relationship improved significantly.We also started going to paint together, now we paint houses on canvases. It's very romantic for me. Look for common hobbies and you will be great!
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I'm not going to support the camera ready advices here though they're not a bad idea either. I absolutely think you're on to something here.
An example, the thigh rubbing issue couple. They've been married for 30 years, they're actually in their early fifties, not in their sixties like I wrote before.
There has been huge issues there since the hubby has been running major companies here for the last 20 years. Great money, tons of moving abroad, twins, and the wife has been suffering from depression for 30 years, undetected for 25.
In the last 10 years, they've made huge lifestyle changes like buying a cabin, and inviting their friends to fix shit there for them. I've built patios, decks, boat docks. Now they're talking about their issues, and their former issues. 2 years ago the wife called me to let me know how bad her depression had gotten, and that she wanted me to know I can talk with her hubby about it too.
The hubby and I have spent the last 2 years on tool therapy going through shit (not theirs alone, these friends of our family have stuck by us when we have needed them, and we've been happy to return the favor). It isn't that she can't talk to me but she talks with my hubby since in many ways my hubby and hers went through similar shit and it's easier for the men to talk to a person a bit removed. I and the rally driving hubby who rubs his thighs talk too.
This summer, I've painted their interior (100m2), built a deck, a dock (70m2) we've talked, laughed and cried together and alone. We are madly proud of them as a couple.
Everyone is really glad I had a place to go and do shit while the hubby has stopped basically my whole home reno project for 8 months now. I'm the worst housewife ever for sure, hands down. Weirdly the hubby still tolerates me.