Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

She isn't smitten sir. She's exercising her flesh hooks. Most women have them. They are activated when they smell money and they tend to latch on to the individual from whence the smell emanated. She doesn't love you, she wants to be set.....financially set.

In my experiences, I've encountered 3 types. Keep in mind, I live a modest life; 5 figure income, small home (all be it paid off and nice) but I'm not housing a Ferrari or expensive toys, no vacations, etc. Type 1. completely intimidated by successful people and absolutely no way of knowing how to act. Type 2. Wants that money and willing to do, act or say anything to get it. Type 3......sigh.....the current girlfriend....only wants my time and couldn't care less if I was insanely rich or homeless.

Your girl falls into one of these categories. You need to determine which. If she told you just a few weeks ago that she wanted a year before she decides to date you exclusively, then suddenly she's smitten. I'll agree with your own words, yet in more of a Kanye-ish type manner....."I'm not saying she's a gold digger.......but....."

I can't believe I just quoted Kanye in anything. I need a long, drawn out, Lifetime Movie-esque, sitting in the shower floor, crying, wash the dirt off moment......and that still won't be enough. I might have to break out the whiskey and some country music tonight.

Apologies - I didn't see this post until the tickle pickle mentioned you posted.

Sadly, she now seems to be type 2.5 - Wants that money and willing to do, act or say anything to get it, but wants to play passive aggressive bullshit games.

I think my only options are bang it as long as it lasts, or just walk away.

And I can't believe you quoted Kanye either. Go wash your mouth out with soap!

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

valid point.
i dont know though. i would say maybe she's just looking to have fun, esp after the construction festivities, but you think she's smitten. at which point i'd have to refer you to Now_Rudi 's post where he quoted kanye

how'd you two meet in the first place by the way?

Maybe - do women just looking for fun declare they don't want to date anyone else? Sure - she might like the D but if she just wanted fun she's keep her options open to all the D she could get?

We met on Tinder. It gives me something to do while on the toilet.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Maybe - do women just looking for fun declare they don't want to date anyone else? Sure - she might like the D but if she just wanted fun she's keep her options open to all the D she could get?

We met on Tinder. It gives me something to do while on the toilet.

well, tinder. there ya go. hate to say it but at least in my experience no girl worth going on a long term relationship comes out of tinder

plus, they can declare they don't want to date anyone else. i honestly believe with the exception of a few things (like being a good leader) nothing is impossible to teach/learn, or at the minimum fake. you don't know (well, i assume that you don't) what goes on in her life when she's not at school or with you

then again, im very, very hard to trust others. excessively, even. if i were you, i'd be looking at her actions and not just taking her words at face value...

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

well, tinder. there ya go. hate to say it but at least in my experience no girl worth going on a long term relationship comes out of tinder

plus, they can declare they don't want to date anyone else. i honestly believe with the exception of a few things (like being a good leader) nothing is impossible to teach/learn, or at the minimum fake. you don't know (well, i assume that you don't) what goes on in her life when she's not at school or with you

then again, im very, very hard to trust others. excessively, even. if i were you, i'd be looking at her actions and not just taking her words at face value...

It's tinder - yeah, I get that. But I have met good people...

And I do tend to trust people to a fault. Starting to think I should give up this dating shit all together and just try to make myself happy.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by dinonz

It's tinder - yeah, I get that. But I have met good people...

And I do tend to trust people to a fault. Starting to think I should give up this dating shit all together and just try to make myself happy.

regardless if you give up on dating or not, you should be making yourself happy!
at the end of the day, it's you. given you're looking into buying a countach you clearly can handle yourself more than fine, and i'd argue if you aren't truly happy with yourself then something is off. if anything, no one can make you feel happy if you aren't happy with yourself


side/legal note: please keep making yourself happy within legal bounds, yes many substances will make you feel happy but not worth it

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Her reason was "Hey sweetie, I'm afraid I won't make it, I'm sorry". That's it.

I think we're past the chasing point. Bending her over and nailing her from behind on my house construction site not once but three times would tend to indicate we're not playing the chase game any more.

In my world, if I told a guy "Hey sweetie, I'm afraid I won't make it, sorry" without scheduling another date the ball is in my court to make next contact. She did not. She blew you off and wants you to chase her. And now she's pissed that you didn't reach out. Walk away....and watch her flip. Ignore her and watch her chase you. I hate games, especially at our age. It's ridiculous.

She thinks if she plays hard to get, you'll chase after her and she'll be in control. I don't like it. You don't need it. Run away. This sex will have much drama.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by dinonz

It's tinder - yeah, I get that. But I have met good people...

And I do tend to trust people to a fault. Starting to think I should give up this dating shit all together and just try to make myself happy.

Priority number 1 is making yourself happy. Once you are happy with yourself, women will be standing in line for you.

[Run Silent]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Apologies - I didn't see this post until the tickle pickle mentioned you posted.

Turkish Pickle

Nasilsin! Ozur dilerim, gıdıklamak tursusu!

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Apologies - I didn't see this post until the tickle pickle mentioned you posted.

Sadly, she now seems to be type 2.5 - Wants that money and willing to do, act or say anything to get it, but wants to play passive aggressive bullshit games.

I think my only options are bang it as long as it lasts, or just walk away.

And I can't believe you quoted Kanye either. Go wash your mouth out with soap!

My opinion, bang it out until you've had enough, then walk away. If another sexual encounter is dependent upon you chasing her, don't bother with it. A solid wank requires no chase or drama after, with the same end result.

I've had 2 showers since I made my Kanye quote post and I still feel the dirt on me! When will this be gone???

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Priority number 1 is making yourself happy. Once you are happy with yourself, women will be standing in line for you.

This, all day long!!! Those that won't line up, once you have yourself where you need to be, aren't where they need to be.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

Can anyone help me decipher and decode the language of Latina's? I'm at a complete loss here. Completely illogical and emotional combined with hair-trigger reactions. I. Don't. Get. It.

UncleWede TXSTYLE ...help a brother out. I'm adrift on the general schema of their emotional make-up and I'm GOOD with people. Really good.

U gotta be crazy to deal with craziness...lol

sleep with one eye closed and the other open

they will sniff you if you have been with another woman, but dont u dare question them...

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

regardless if you give up on dating or not, you should be making yourself happy!
at the end of the day, it's you. given you're looking into buying a countach you clearly can handle yourself more than fine, and i'd argue if you aren't truly happy with yourself then something is off. if anything, no one can make you feel happy if you aren't happy with yourself


side/legal note: please keep making yourself happy within legal bounds, yes many substances will make you feel happy but not worth it

Yeah - various things have happened over the past 4 years and I have become more withdrawn and less interested in anything. I've been searching for hobbies but everything I find is either meh or done that before. Even things I used to enjoy like flying I can't seem to get myself interested in again, although I have to say that flying light aircraft in NZ is way more appealing than flying them here. Hours in any direction and I'm still in Texas.

Heh - only substances I take are alcohol. And blood pressure medication. But not together.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

In my world, if I told a guy "Hey sweetie, I'm afraid I won't make it, sorry" without scheduling another date the ball is in my court to make next contact. She did not. She blew you off and wants you to chase her. And now she's pissed that you didn't reach out. Walk away....and watch her flip. Ignore her and watch her chase you. I hate games, especially at our age. It's ridiculous.

She thinks if she plays hard to get, you'll chase after her and she'll be in control. I don't like it. You don't need it. Run away. This sex will have much drama.

Thanks - I feel the same way. She could have suggested something else but didn't. I'm to old to play these games.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Priority number 1 is making yourself happy. Once you are happy with yourself, women will be standing in line for you.

Yeah - that's something I am struggling with. Long complicated story. Living 10,000 km from friends and family doesn't help.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Run Silent

Turkish Pickle

Nasilsin! Ozur dilerim, gıdıklamak tursusu!

Oops - should have called him threesum pickle!

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

I've had 2 showers since I made my Kanye quote post and I still feel the dirt on me! When will this be gone???

Not until you have had the greatest shower of all time and he announces it at the Grammys.

[Matt@EuroJerks]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

In my world, if I told a guy "Hey sweetie, I'm afraid I won't make it, sorry" without scheduling another date the ball is in my court to make next contact. She did not. She blew you off and wants you to chase her. And now she's pissed that you didn't reach out. Walk away....and watch her flip. Ignore her and watch her chase you. I hate games, especially at our age. It's ridiculous.

She thinks if she plays hard to get, you'll chase after her and she'll be in control. I don't like it. You don't need it. Run away. This sex will have much drama.

Sprint away from this. What is the saying? If it flies, floats, or F^%ks, Rent it.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Matt@EuroJerks

Sprint away from this. What is the saying? If it flies, floats, or F^%ks, Rent it.

The version I heard was "if it floats, flies or fornicates, it's cheaper to rent".

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Run Silent

Turkish Pickle

Nasilsin! Ozur dilerim, gıdıklamak tursusu!

I forgot you lived in Turkey for a while

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

In my world, if I told a guy "Hey sweetie, I'm afraid I won't make it, sorry" without scheduling another date the ball is in my court to make next contact. She did not. She blew you off and wants you to chase her. And now she's pissed that you didn't reach out. Walk away....and watch her flip. Ignore her and watch her chase you. I hate games, especially at our age. It's ridiculous.

She thinks if she plays hard to get, you'll chase after her and she'll be in control. I don't like it. You don't need it. Run away. This sex will have much drama.

Finally got a "Morning" about 9am. Replied with "Good morning" and silence...

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

why did she cancel lunch?
i told the last girl it wouldn't work out after she'd basically say no to my invites to do something that isn't really a date, generally with stuff like "im going to brunch with the girls" etc. not really non-plausible, but if you won't even ask to reschedule i'll take that as a no.

she also could be not passive aggressive and could be wanting you to chase after her. i cant say for sure if women at that age still play those games, but given men don't really "grow up" i wouldn't be surprised

i'm going to be that dickhead and quote myself, yes

idk man, how willing are you to chase a tinder match?

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

i'm going to be that dickhead and quote myself, yes

idk man, how willing are you to chase a tinder match?

Same here....I never have and never will chase anything. Back then I didn't have the time to be bothered by childish shit seeing as we are all adults.

Oddly enough...it's that type of attitude that kept my neighbor shaking his head at me every time he saw me. Once he told me that his wife said I must own a car dealership as there was a different car around every time she would be outside to notice. .

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Finally got a "Morning" about 9am. Replied with "Good morning" and silence...

Step away from that phone. Don't you dare answer her right away.