Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

I'm of the same mindset. I have a friend of mine who tells me about how turned on her husband gets about it. He actually asks her to tell him, in great detail, about her escapades with men prior to him. Yeah, no thanks.

Ive actually been invited to be part of a party to that and even that was a hard pass. Im sure some people can make that kind of stuff work but my brain cant do the math.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by ryan stewart

I dont think its a "keep it to cars."

I think it falls on the spectrum of consent for one thing. I wouldn't be sharing that stuff unless they were party to it. How would they react if a stranger recognized them and said, "Oh Ive seen you before, some dude was posting pictures of you up on the internet!"

I use my real name, Im not concerned about my privacy, but I wouldnt even begin to consider posting up PII of someone I cared about online.

The second thing is why? What triggered you to think we needed to see pictures of your exes? Did someone ask for them? What was the purpose of posting them? Is it validation? I dont recall that being part of the thread up until now.

How do you know the people who posted in that thread didn't get consent? I share things in this thread with those whom I have regular conversations with daily. Gloss over it if you have no interest in discussing exes. This thread is about dating, and the conversations are fluid. One could argue this entire thread is about validation. What now?!?!

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by ryan stewart

Ive actually been invited to be part of a party to that and even that was a hard pass. Im sure some people can make that kind of stuff work but my brain cant do the math.

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

That's batshit insane to me; there is no way I would be able to process that type of information and not completely lose my mind. Sometimes ignorance truly is bliss.

When I hear of some of the experiences that I have, I typically try to put myself in the same mind space as the person telling the story. I may be expressing too much here, but I honestly don't think I could..."function" under some of that stress. I get that everyone has their different level of kink, but damn. At the same time, whatever works for two people to be happy together, let them have at it. Who am I to judge what works for others? I don't hear anyone judging me, based off what works for me; I have to give the same respect in return. Still, some of it just boggles my mind.

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

How do you know the people who posted in that thread didn't get consent? I share things in this thread with those whom I have regular conversations with daily. Gloss over it if you have no interest in discussing exes. This thread is about dating, and the conversations are fluid. One could argue this entire thread is about validation. What now?!?!

Man you're triggered, do I need to send you some wax cross?

You're the only person to start posting exes and it didn't take, move on man. Maybe take it back to the other threads that were actually about that.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

When I hear of some of the experiences that I have, I typically try to put myself in the same mind space as the person telling the story. I may be expressing too much here, but I honestly don't think I could..."function" under some of that stress. I get that everyone has their different level of kink, but damn. At the same time, whatever works for two people to be happy together, let them have at it. Who am I to judge what works for others? I don't hear anyone judging me, based off what works for me; I have to give the same respect in return. Still, some of it just boggles my mind.

Indeed! I've hung out with swingers and they are an interesting bunch. I couldn't be in an open relationship, but some love the freedom it entails. I suppose it's a situation that comes down to allowing the openness or be cheated on, so people choose the former.

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

When I hear of some of the experiences that I have, I typically try to put myself in the same mind space as the person telling the story. I may be expressing too much here, but I honestly don't think I could..."function" under some of that stress. I get that everyone has their different level of kink, but damn. At the same time, whatever works for two people to be happy together, let them have at it. Who am I to judge what works for others? I don't hear anyone judging me, based off what works for me; I have to give the same respect in return. Still, some of it just boggles my mind.

Oh I'm not judging. But to me its like being gay. I am unable to even comprehend it. I get that it works for others, my brain just can't figure out HOW it works for others. But I assume (in the case of a gay man) he may think the same about me.

Takes all kinds, but not all kinds take.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by ryan stewart

Man you're triggered, do I need to send you some wax cross?

You're the only person to start posting exes and it didn't take, move on man. Maybe take it back to the other threads that were actually about that.

Since when is asking questions considered "triggered." Calm down cowboy.

[Tommy-G]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

When I hear of some of the experiences that I have, I typically try to put myself in the same mind space as the person telling the story. I may be expressing too much here, but I honestly don't think I could..."function" under some of that stress. I get that everyone has their different level of kink, but damn. At the same time, whatever works for two people to be happy together, let them have at it. Who am I to judge what works for others? I don't hear anyone judging me, based off what works for me; I have to give the same respect in return. Still, some of it just boggles my mind.

It's only kinky the 1st time!

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by Tommy-G

It's only kinky the 1st time!

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Tommy-G

It's only kinky the 1st time!

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

When I hear of some of the experiences that I have, I typically try to put myself in the same mind space as the person telling the story. I may be expressing too much here, but I honestly don't think I could..."function" under some of that stress.

Absolutely the truth. There's nothing wrong with sharing likes and dislikes with a partner, but semantics are very important. Get it wrong, and someone's head can get tangled into knots which can manifest itself in less than desirable ways.

[upstatedoc]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

Absolutely the truth. There's nothing wrong with sharing likes and dislikes with a partner, but semantics are very important. Get it wrong, and someone's head can get tangled into knots which can manifest itself in less than desirable ways.

Yeah, but are you getting laid?

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

Yeah, but are you getting laid?

I've no complaints

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by Sara

That has nothing to do with whether someone would like me because of how many "finger prints" I have versus a guy, because "cardio is cardio."

It's fine.

Women are allowed to look, but not touch. Guys can touch whenever, whatever and get high fives.

No, you got me wrong. For me at the end it doesnt really matter how many guys a gal might had have before me. Same right for both genders.
I understand the usual way of thoughts that a woman with many partners could maybe more unattractive because she had walked her way; but this ancient thinking and I am not related to too old habits.

[Tambohamilton]

*tumbleweed*

Nobody dating then??

[Cyn-BMW]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

*tumbleweed*

Nobody dating then??

No, only porking!

[upstatedoc]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

*tumbleweed*

Nobody dating then??

I really have no desire to date right now. I am enjoying living vicariously through others. Speaking of which, where has pickle been?

[jninja]

My thoughts on the dating scene today..

[Tambohamilton]

So he does actually fly planes then??

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by Sara

Who was it that suggested I give surgeon a second chance?


What a difference a second date can make. After telling him no at first, he invited me to hang out with his friends yesterday. 4 bars and 1 restaurant later, it was a very nice time. He was actually talkative. His friends were great. Didn't think I'd be the only girl there, but hey.

If he was the one you thought was a weirdo becuase of sugar it might have been me

Mine just accused me of cheating again so looks like I'm back on the market.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

So he does actually fly planes then??

Negative

[fiveohwblow]

Originally Posted by Sara

You know it's funny, everything he ordered at the restaurant was the most greasy, sugary, unhealthy shit lol. I did notice that he was a completely different person last night. The only thing he wouldn't take were the tequila shots his friends ordered at the bar.

I wonder if he picked up on your reaction last time and was trying to counter the disgust…? One does not just change eating habits to the other end of the spectrum overnight.